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Is it possible to learn to love?
Sometimes some people admit that they are completely unable to love, they come to this conclusion themselves or others tell them about it. There is a certain type of personality that is really incapable of love in any of its manifestations. They are too calculating and cold, so they strive more for personal gain than for an exalted state of mind. But practice shows that most people can learn to give love if they just want to and put in a little effort. The first thing to do is to determine what is romantic and pleasant for you. It doesn't have to be a relationship, because the above lists have proven that romance can even be in everyday things. Maybe it seems incredibly beautiful and peaceful to you when you are sitting at home, rain is pouring outside the window, lightning is flashing, and you are enjoying a good book? Or do you like a leisurely walk in the early morning in the park, where there are no people yet, but there is silence and fresh cool air? All you need to do at this stage is to identify what really inspires you, makes you sensitive and receptive. The second step is immersion. This means that you need to be in a state of mental catharsis more often. Just put things aside and do what makes you so happy. Even if it turns out to be difficult at first, over time you will begin to feel the need for such a pastime. A gradual immersion into this "romantic whirlpool" may take some time, but the result will not take long to wait. The third step is to try to recreate in everyday life the feelings that you experienced in romantic moments. Even if it's related to a relationship and not something more mundane, remember your first kiss, the slight excitement of waiting for a date, a lock of hair. Falling into your eyes and timid confessions. The warmth that comes after such reflections, you will not confuse with anything, because it will temporarily give you immunity from any external stimuli. The last thing you will need to do is learn how to give.