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limit communication with people who bring chaos into your world. May there be more joy in your life
In kindergartens, schools, institutes, women are not taught to choose their surroundings, they are taught to put up with what they have. If a teacher yells at you, and mom and dad do not protect you, and even worse take the side of this teacher, what kind of self-esteem should be expected from such a girl? What will she be able to take from such communication? That no one needs her, she is the worst, there is no one to protect her. Continuing the chain further, we can see that such a girl will choose people who will use her in the future, and it will take a lot of work to put everything back in place, so that such a woman's self-esteem becomes adequate. If we were taught from kindergarten to respect ourselves and others, not to give us offense, always protect us and stand on our side, tell us that we are beautiful, there would be many times less problems. What do you do if someone is trying to lower your self-esteem in one way or another? Talk about how you feel. It is important to be able to talk about what you are uncomfortable with. Or that you are in pain. It's also important not to attack, try to defend yourself, or fall into a victimized state. Being honest with yourself and others is the main rule. You deserve to be happy. No one can humiliate you, and if they do, it is important to be able to say that it is unacceptable to you. If a friend calls you and tells you day in and day out that you need to lose weight, it is better to temporarily stop such communication on the phone. You need to figure out if it is really a friend, if it seeks to point out your shortcomings and does not talk about love for you at all. Often people like to push guilt. For example, that you are a bad daughter, you don't give me grandchildren, you don't think about me. It is important to let your mom know with love in your heart that you love and appreciate her, but life is still yours.